The Skill That Changes You (Corrected)

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Stop Fighting Resistance

I rejoined Twitter this week after years away.
It is a different world.

Most voices in the productivity space are busy telling you what to do.
The right app.
The perfect routine.
The five-step system that made them so successful.

External tools are useful.
We all need them.
But when a resistant mindset is running the show, the result will always fall short.

If mindset is mentioned at all, it is the same tired refrain:
“Discipline yourself.”
“Use your willpower.”
“Push through the resistance.”

But that advice leads to the same place every time:
burnout, guilt, despair, shame.

Because the real obstacle is not external.
It is internal.

Resistance, not a lack of tools, is what stands in the way.
You are not failing because you lack discipline or willpower.
You are stuck because you are saying no to what is.

Every “This is boring,”
every “This shouldn’t be happening,”
every “I might not get the result I want”
is resistance and adds friction.

That inner no drains your energy before you even begin.

The trap is not resistance itself.
It is your relationship with it.

Each time you judge yourself for hesitating, you tighten the spiral.
You add pressure.
You add shame.
You add drag.

The harder you push, the harder resistance pushes back.

You wait to feel confident before acting.
You wait to feel motivated before starting.
But waiting is the mechanism that keeps resistance alive.

What you call procrastination or distraction is not a flaw.
It is the side effect of fighting what you feel.

The skill is not to crush, override, or ignore resistance.
It is to neutralize it.

Neutralization is the first quiet shift.
It begins when you stop labeling the task as good or bad, easy or hard, fair or unfair.
You see the event as it factually is and nothing more.

When you stop loading the moment with meaning, resistance has nowhere to attach.
It may still arise, but it has nothing to feed on.
The noise lessens. The charge fades.

Neutralization makes space for frictionless productivity to become possible.
It presents you with no reason to not take action.
It is the pause where struggle loses its footing.

Try this.

Pick one task you have been avoiding.

Notice the story you have been telling yourself about it.
“This will be awful.”
“I am going to bomb this.”
“Everyone will think I am incompetent.”

Now strip away the story.
Describe the task in purely neutral terms.
Remove the drama.
Remove the predictions.
Remove the judgment.

Instead of: “I have to make this impossibly awkward phone call.”
Say: “I will call Alex at 2 PM to discuss the timeline.”

Instead of: “I need to write this stupid presentation and I am going to mess it up.”
Say: “I will create five slides about Q3 results.”

That is how you start.

This shift, from charged story to neutral fact, is the doorway.

Once you see the task clearly, the next step becomes obvious.
Not easy, maybe. But obvious.
And obvious is enough to begin.

Start today.
Pick that task.
Identify the story.
See the task for what it really is: a neutral event..

Welcome to the Frictionless Mindset.
See what you can do when you stop fighting yourself.

Cheers—
Alessandra

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